I have had many readers email me to ask more about Reality Distortion Systems. Some have asked me to identify some of them. So, here goes:
Everyone has to like me – I can be emotionally manipulated to do what …
Doing an Excuse Inventory
First make a list of all the excuses you allow yourself. Be specific. For example, if you say to yourself, "I am a procrastinator," that is too large an area to tackle in an Excuse Inventory. Excuse Inventories have to …
More Excuses
What are excuses? They are reasons for not keeping commitments either to others or to one’s self. Excuses create a lose/lose situation for everyone involved in a broken promise, and they evoke resentments. Excuses try to make right, the disappointment …
Reality Clarity Systems and
Intimacy Filled Pastiming
For all of us on a journey to a healthy life, a life away from the RDS that caused us problems and emotional pain, the goal is a sustained Reality Clarity System and Intimacy Filled Pastiming. The RCS will allow …
Reality Clarity Systems and Intimacy Free Pastiming
Reality Clarity Systems lend themselves to Intimacy Free Pastiming – the healthy part of it. Remember, the unhealthy part of Intimacy Free Pastiming is activities excessively done in solitude – like joining a gaming community every night until you go …
Connections between Reality Distortion Systems, Reality Clarity Systems and Intimacy Free and Intimacy Filled Pastiming
Reality Distortion Systems are based on denial. Reality Clarity Systems are based on overcoming denial and embracing a new, more accurate, perspective. Intimacy Free Pastiming is based on having activities, communications, hobbies that one can do alone or with another. …
Reality Clarity Systems – Summary 7
Actualization
Courage – It takes great courage and perseverance to get out of one’s RDS. We will have to be perpetually courageous because the RDS will pull at us for the rest of our lives. Remember, many of us were …
Reality Clarity Systems – Summary 6
Let’s review the remaining items on the way to Actualization –
1. Accountability – This can be difficult because you will be pulled in two different directions for accountability – a) your RDS will want to hold you accountable for …
Reality Clarity Systems – Summary 5
Actualization
Actualization! You have made it out of your RDS into your new Reality Clarity System! That does not mean that there won’t be pulls back to the RDS, but you have done much work to actualize!
In this stage, …