Bitterness, Examining Item #6
#6. What do I need to work on?
When thinking about the question, “What do I need to work on?” we can feel overwhelmed by negative self talk. “I’m such a looser, I need to work …
Bitterness, Part 2
Bitterness, Part 2
Now you have written all the events that have made you bitter, in one JAR. Now what? Select one topic. Write it down at the top of a piece of paper. Answer the following questions:
1. What …
Bitterness, Part 1
Bitterness
Ever find yourself just consumed with bitterness? Do you focus on wrongs done to you, or revenge? How do we get rid of this?
Bitterness will eat you alive – from the inside. Our bitterness does not harm those …
A New Technique for Starting to Heal Past Wounds, Part 3
A New Technique for Starting to Heal Past Wounds
JAGS
Just About Resentments
Getting rid of the contents from a JAR is so important because otherwise, we are walking around in our present life, with a collection of heavy JARS …
A New Technique for Starting to Heal Past Wounds, Part 2
A New Technique for Starting to Heal Past Wounds
JAGS
Just About Gratitude
Now that we have our JARS, let’s think about how to deal with them. Even though we have metaphorically externalized our bitterness toward the people who wounded …
A New Technique for Starting to Heal Past Wounds, Part 1
A New Technique for Starting to Heal Past Wounds
JARS
Just About Resentments
One day, while sitting in a group of patients, I listened to someone recite the collections of wounds they had received from a parent. The person said …
Types of Intimate Relationships: Don’t Talk Don’t Tell
Types of Intimate Relationships
Don’t Talk Don’t Tell
Don’t Talk, Don’t Trust, Don’t Feel
If you come from a paradigm of, “don’t talk, don’t trust, don’t feel,” chances are you are an adult child of an addict, also known as …
Types of Intimate Relationships: Codependency
Types of Intimate Relationships
Codependency
As we have said in previous posts, Codependency is the disease to please. While codependents think they want intimate relationships, those, “soul mate,” kind of relationships, what they actually, and unconsciously want, is to control …
Types of Intimate Relationships: Cheating, Part 2
Types of Intimate Relationships
Cheating, Part 2
One’s maturity level influences whether one cheats or not. One’s style of taking responsibility for their own behavior, also shapes one’s decision to cheat or not. In either case, BLAME is usually the …
Types of Intimate Relationships: Cheating, Part 1
Types of Intimate Relationships
Cheating, Part 1
When trust is broken in an intimate relationship, it takes great effort to reestablish it. For some, cheating becomes a relationship style because when one’s primary relationship becomes boring, cheating temporarily provides freedom …