Just to summarize this paradigm, the basis for an RDS (Reality Distortion Systems) is denial. The denial is embedded in a system which contains thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, and interpersonal dynamics that encapsulate those who are members of the RDS. When …
Life Is Like an Airplane Ride
Life is like an airplane ride. You board the plane, and you don’t know what’s going to happen. You don’t know if you are REALLY going to your destination, or if there will be a detour or unexpected lay over, …
The Prison of the Mind
In the deepest basement of our being is the prison of the mind. In it are all the outdated cassette tapes that we keep listening to. All the cruel things ever said to us are stored here. It is a …
Invited Criticism
How can one safely provide feedback when asked for it? We all know the usual outcome for the set up question: “Honey, do I look fat in this dress?” If, “yes,” is your honest opinion, and you and the person …
Uninvited Criticism
Just what is criticism, and why do others think they have the right to make uninvited critical statements? This is a mystery! "I hate your purse because it looks like a shoe! I would never buy such a thing." or, …
Intimacy Filled Pastiming Exercise: VALUES
You can do this exercise alone, or with your partner. If you do it with your partner, do it one at a time: one can read the value and the definition to the other. Then switch.
Get a sheet of …
Intimacy Filled Pastiming: Signs of Healthy Boundries
Now that we understand unhealthy boundaries, and how they would form a barrier to Intimacy Filled Pastiming, let’s look at Healthy Boundaries, describe them, and investigate how they could help facilitate Intimacy Filled Pastiming.
Appropriate trust
Revealing a little of …
Intimacy Filled Pastiming: Unhealthy Boundaries
The subject of boundaries is immense. Below are some of the signs of unhealthy boundaries. Some of them are comprehensible all by themselves. I think that others are not self explanatory. Therefore, next to the signs that I think might …
Intimacy Filled Pastiming: Boundaries – Part 3
Continuing our discussion about boundaries, it might be helpful to remember the image above. It is disrespectful and unkind to violate some one’s boundaries. It will put huge impediments on the road to Intimacy Filled Pastiming.
Internet Boundaries
How long …
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