Those in the RDS of Codependency think they’re extremely nice, helpful and giving, and they don’t understand why others aren’t just as nice to them. The truth is, codependents foster dysfunction in …
Codependents have a mission: to save, rescue and fix, other people. They wear themselves out by explaining, cajoling, pleading, manipulating, and being martyrs. They set themselves to be the victims of the …
Why is Codependency a Reality Distortion System? Because it is based on a denial and control schema that serve to cement perception distortion into one’s entire vision of what is true, and …
Unlike any other Reality Distortion System, porn addiction can lead the addict’s partner to feeling inadequate, unattractive, and shameful because they can’t connect with the one they love in the most intimate …
Porn intrudes on normal sexual relationships. It can seem more exciting than having intimate relationships with a partner. Internet porn produces a double neurochemical rush because the viewing of extreme material coupled …
While pornography is often used as an adjunct to and stimulant for sexual behavior, watching porn can become a physiological and behavioral addiction. It intrudes on intimate behavior when one finds himself …
Gambling is a behavioral addiction. It is also a physiological addiction. For the compulsive gambler, the adrenaline produced from the excitement of the possibility of a win, can be addictive. Adrenaline gives …
Gambling can start out to be an innocent, occasional pastime, wherein the hopes of winning are based in the reality that there is minimal probability that, “the huge win,” will be realized. It is …
The belief system in any Reality Distortion System is what keeps the distortion in place. Remember, denial is at the heart of every RDS. For the Shopping RDS, denial tells us, “I …
What to Resist: When moving from the Shopping Reality Distortion System to a Shopping Reality Clarity System, one must know the lures that keep one involved with the shopping system. It can …