Guilting
One day, Susan’s mom will call her on the phone. "Oh honey, we all miss you so much! Won’t you come over for dinner? Your dad would love to see you. He doesn’t understand why you’ve not been around."…
Reality Distortion Systems – Part 4
Susan will get depressed! Susan’s family will get depressed! Everyone but dad will be depressed because dad has been enabled to keep drinking and remain ignorant that his disease is at the root of family upheaval, RDS, and chronic disappointment. …
Reality Distortion Systems – Part 3
Life in a Reality Distortion System:
dad’s relatives – many addicts
alcoholic dad mom’s relatives – marry addicts
codependent mom
3 children
What happens? The family falls apart and Susan gets blamed for the family’s issues. Initially, Susan felt …
Reality Distortion Systems – Part 2
Example of life in a Reality Distortion System:
dad’s relatives – many addicts
alcoholic dad mom’s relatives – marry addicts
codependent mom
3 children
It is extremely difficult and uncomfortable to get one’s self out of a Psychological Reality …
Reality Distortion Systems – Part 1
What is a Reality Distortion System? It is a belief system that supports denial. One’s life is organized around the Reality Distortion Field (RDS) and this serves to cement perception distortion into one’s entire vision of what is true, and …
Fido, the Coronavirus Witch, and Me
For the first few weeks of being locked in our apartment, separating from everyone who might be carrying the Coronavirus Witch with them, I was fearless! My goldendoodle dog and very best pal, Fido, and I went for regular walks …
Getting Through Coronavirus – a Reframe
Any worldwide pandemic is very concerning, and, in fact, it can be very scary. We could bury ourselves with the “what ifs.” What if I come in contact with a person who has this awful disease? What if I lose …
Reality Distortion Systems – Summary
Just to summarize this paradigm, the basis for an RDS (Reality Distortion Systems) is denial. The denial is embedded in a system which contains thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, and interpersonal dynamics that encapsulate those who are members of the RDS. When …
Life Is Like an Airplane Ride
Life is like an airplane ride. You board the plane, and you don’t know what’s going to happen. You don’t know if you are REALLY going to your destination, or if there will be a detour or unexpected lay over, …
The Prison of the Mind
In the deepest basement of our being is the prison of the mind. In it are all the outdated cassette tapes that we keep listening to. All the cruel things ever said to us are stored here. It is a …