Shopping: Part 4

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Types of Reality Distortion Systems

Shopping: Part 4

The belief system in any Reality Distortion System is what keeps the distortion in place.  Remember, denial is at the heart of every RDS.  For the Shopping RDS, denial tells us, “I …

Shopping: Part 3

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Types of Reality Distortion Systems

Shopping: Part 3

What to Resist:  When moving from the Shopping Reality Distortion System to a Shopping Reality Clarity System, one must know the lures that keep one involved with the shopping system.  It can …

Shopping: Part 2

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Types of Reality Distortion Systems

Shopping: Part 2

Shopping can appear to be a very social activity. One can call a pal and say, "Want to go shopping and out to lunch?" "I heard about this little antique store, want …

Shopping: Part 1

shopping-woman

Types of Reality Distortion Systems

Shopping: Part 1

“I just can’t live without this gorgeous, fabulous, irreplaceable, blue sweater. I know I don’t have the money for it, but I HAVE TO HAVE IT!” Welcome to the world of the …

I’m Not an Addict: Part 7

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Types of Reality Distortion Systems

I’m Not an Addict cont’d

Addiction and Intimacy

If one is addicted to a behavior or substance, that is the PRIMARY RELATIONSHIP! If one thinks that he/she is so special that the addict will put …

I’m Not an Addict: Part 6

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Types of Reality Distortion Systems

I’m Not an Addict cont’d

A Reality Distortion System

Beliefs in this RDS:

1. I am unique. I can drink/use and it won’t negatively impact my life.

2. No one will know. I can drink/use …

I’m Not an Addict: Part 5

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Types of Reality Distortion Systems

I’m Not an Addict cont’d

More Things to Resist:

2.  Family members who want you to drink/use with them.  This is a particularly important lure to resist.  If you come from a family in which …

I’m Not an Addict: Part 4

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Types of Reality Distortion Systems

I’m Not an Addict cont’d

How to Implement New Behavior

What to Resist:  With recovery from addiction, one must resist any and all temptations to indulge in addict behavior.  This can be very challenging, since …

I’m Not an Addict: Part 3

drinking-buddies

Types of Reality Distortion Systems

I’m Not an Addict cont’d

How to Implement New Behavior

There are many behaviors us addicts have, which keep our addiction in place.  Here are some of them:

1.  Using Rituals:  A using ritual is …