Example of life in a Reality Distortion System:
dad’s relatives – many addicts
alcoholic dad mom’s relatives – marry addicts
codependent mom
3 children
It is extremely difficult and uncomfortable to get one’s self out of a Psychological Reality …
Reality Distortion Systems – Part 1
What is a Reality Distortion System? It is a belief system that supports denial. One’s life is organized around the Reality Distortion Field (RDS) and this serves to cement perception distortion into one’s entire vision of what is true, and …
Fido, the Coronavirus Witch, and Me
For the first few weeks of being locked in our apartment, separating from everyone who might be carrying the Coronavirus Witch with them, I was fearless! My goldendoodle dog and very best pal, Fido, and I went for regular walks …
Getting Through Coronavirus – a Reframe
Any worldwide pandemic is very concerning, and, in fact, it can be very scary. We could bury ourselves with the “what ifs.” What if I come in contact with a person who has this awful disease? What if I lose …
Reality Distortion Systems – Summary
Just to summarize this paradigm, the basis for an RDS (Reality Distortion Systems) is denial. The denial is embedded in a system which contains thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, and interpersonal dynamics that encapsulate those who are members of the RDS. When …
Life Is Like an Airplane Ride
Life is like an airplane ride. You board the plane, and you don’t know what’s going to happen. You don’t know if you are REALLY going to your destination, or if there will be a detour or unexpected lay over, …
The Prison of the Mind
In the deepest basement of our being is the prison of the mind. In it are all the outdated cassette tapes that we keep listening to. All the cruel things ever said to us are stored here. It is a …
Invited Criticism
How can one safely provide feedback when asked for it? We all know the usual outcome for the set up question: “Honey, do I look fat in this dress?” If, “yes,” is your honest opinion, and you and the person …
Uninvited Criticism
Just what is criticism, and why do others think they have the right to make uninvited critical statements? This is a mystery! "I hate your purse because it looks like a shoe! I would never buy such a thing." or, …
Intimacy Filled Pastiming Exercise: VALUES
You can do this exercise alone, or with your partner. If you do it with your partner, do it one at a time: one can read the value and the definition to the other. Then switch.
Get a sheet of …