Were you ever sure that there wasn’t someone for you? Have you looked far and wide and no one seemed like they could actually accept you for the person that you are, or their focus was on everything but you? …
I Don’t Deserve: A Reality Distortion System, Part 2
Types of Reality Distortion Systems
To continue with the, "I don’t deserve," Reality Distortion System –
What to Resist: Your friends and relatives are accustomed to having you feel you don’t deserve much. They have trained you to feel you, …
I Don’t Deserve: A Reality Distortion System, Part 1
Types of Reality Distortion Systems
I Don’t Deserve: This RDS keeps us from getting what we want. It keeps our aspirations very low. It inhibits us from achieving our full potential and from daring to dream. It denies our talents …
My Pet is My Best Friend:
As a Reality Distortion System
Types of Reality Distortion Systems
My dog/cat/guinea pig et al is my best friend. Here we have a relationship of adoration. It is certainly easier to look to a pet for love and affection than a human, because NOTHING is …
Types of Reality Distortion Systems
Everyone Has to Like Me
I have had many readers email me to ask more about Reality Distortion Systems. Some have asked me to identify some of them. So, here goes:
Everyone has to like me – I can be emotionally manipulated to do what …
Doing an Excuse Inventory
First make a list of all the excuses you allow yourself. Be specific. For example, if you say to yourself, "I am a procrastinator," that is too large an area to tackle in an Excuse Inventory. Excuse Inventories have to …
More Excuses
What are excuses? They are reasons for not keeping commitments either to others or to one’s self. Excuses create a lose/lose situation for everyone involved in a broken promise, and they evoke resentments. Excuses try to make right, the disappointment …
Reality Clarity Systems and
Intimacy Filled Pastiming
For all of us on a journey to a healthy life, a life away from the RDS that caused us problems and emotional pain, the goal is a sustained Reality Clarity System and Intimacy Filled Pastiming. The RCS will allow …
Reality Clarity Systems and Intimacy Free Pastiming
Reality Clarity Systems lend themselves to Intimacy Free Pastiming – the healthy part of it. Remember, the unhealthy part of Intimacy Free Pastiming is activities excessively done in solitude – like joining a gaming community every night until you go …