Values are the basic beliefs that guide or motivate your attitudes or actions. They help you to determine what is important to you. And they describe the personal qualities you choose to exemplify: the sort of person you want to …
Valentine’s Day 2019
Tomorrow is the beginning of February. In no time at all, it will be Valentine’s Day. Yes, I’m aware that many of us consider this “day of romance” as one that was created by Hallmark Cards. I was thinking about …
The Struggle to Define Intimacy
Dear Ann: I am pulling my hair out! I hate that my boyfriend won’t talk to me. I mean, REALLY, talk to me. I want to be so close to him but he only wants to talk about work or …
Thinking About Intimacy
What is INTIMACY? So many people struggle with this in their relationships. Just what keeps us from being intimate in how we converse with each other? What are the masks we wear to keep others from knowing our real selves, …
Getting Through Unhappy Romantic Relationships
I’m pleased to announce that my new book in the Let’s Make a Contract series is available on Amazon and at my website. Based on real-life situations with my patients, Getting Through Unhappy Romantic Relationships offers insights not often talked …
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5 Ways to Have a Love that Lasts
- Base your decision-making about potential romantic relationships (PRR) on values, not just on chemistry. Research shows overwhelmingly that if you find someone with whom you share values you will have a strong foundation for a long-term romantic relationship. Have the
How to Leave the Dork
- The number one thing we have to do before telling someone we are going to leave a romantic relationship is to decide that your partner actually has become an irreversible “dork” and there is not one thing that could be
