Dr. Ann Schiebert
Author / Clinical Psychologist

Actualization

Courage – It takes great courage and perseverance to get out of one’s RDS.  We will have to be perpetually courageous because the RDS will pull at us for the rest of our lives. Remember, many of us were …

Let’s review the remaining items on the way to Actualization –

1.  Accountability – This can be difficult because you will be pulled in two different directions for accountability – a) your RDS will want to hold you accountable for …

Actualization

Actualization!  You have made it out of your RDS into your new Reality Clarity System!  That does not mean that there won’t be pulls back to the RDS, but you have done much work to actualize!

In this stage, …

Acceptance

Acceptance, in the RDS/RCS (Reality Distortion Systems / Reality Clarity Systems) context, is the internal knowledge and belief that those in our RDS, won’t change because we want them to do so, or because we have new information or …

Bargaining

Now, you start bargaining with yourself.  You have walked away from all the guilt that comes from the RDS but now you say to yourself, "Is this really what I want?"  "Can I ignore my family?"  "Is it my …

So there is mom, at the front door, inviting you in for the holiday meal. And the GUILT stage begins:

"I wouldn’t want to hurt mom’s feelings."  "It would be so bad to disrespect mom by declining her invitation to …

A Reality Clarity System is open.  It is comprised of people who are in the process of leaving; those who have left their family or corporations or churches etc,  RDS.  They have opened to new information and have rejected the …

With practice, Susan will actually become a different person with a reality that is one SHE has worked to actualize: She is not going to pass her family of origin’s RDS on to another generation.  What Susan has done is …

Going from a Reality Distortion System to a Reality Clarity System is a process. None of this is linear. Often, those on the path find they take one step forward and two steps back. Look at how far Susan has …