Types of Reality Distortion Systems
Shopping: Part 1
“I just can’t live without this gorgeous, fabulous, irreplaceable, blue sweater. I know I don’t have the money for it, but I HAVE TO HAVE IT!” Welcome to the world of the …
I’m Not an Addict: Part 7
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I’m Not an Addict cont’d
Addiction and Intimacy
If one is addicted to a behavior or substance, that is the PRIMARY RELATIONSHIP! If one thinks that he/she is so special that the addict will put …
I’m Not an Addict: Part 6
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I’m Not an Addict cont’d
A Reality Distortion System
Beliefs in this RDS:
1. I am unique. I can drink/use and it won’t negatively impact my life.
2. No one will know. I can drink/use …
I’m Not an Addict: Part 5
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I’m Not an Addict cont’d
More Things to Resist:
2. Family members who want you to drink/use with them. This is a particularly important lure to resist. If you come from a family in which …
I’m Not an Addict: Part 4
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I’m Not an Addict cont’d
How to Implement New Behavior
What to Resist: With recovery from addiction, one must resist any and all temptations to indulge in addict behavior. This can be very challenging, since …
I’m Not an Addict: Part 3
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I’m Not an Addict cont’d
How to Implement New Behavior
There are many behaviors us addicts have, which keep our addiction in place. Here are some of them:
1. Using Rituals: A using ritual is …
I’m Not an Addict: Part 2
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I’m Not an Addict cont’d
What does one do to get out of this Reality Distortion System? First of all, no one can do it for you – not your spouse, your uncle, best friend …
I’m Not an Addict: A Reality Distortion System
Types of Reality Distortion Systems
I’m Not an Addict
This RDS has far reaching consequences. If drinking/drugging, are causing problems in a person’s life, and if there are negative consequences from using, chances are that there is a substance abuse/dependence …
Finding Love
Were you ever sure that there wasn’t someone for you? Have you looked far and wide and no one seemed like they could actually accept you for the person that you are, or their focus was on everything but you? …
I Don’t Deserve: A Reality Distortion System, Part 2
Types of Reality Distortion Systems
To continue with the, "I don’t deserve," Reality Distortion System –
What to Resist: Your friends and relatives are accustomed to having you feel you don’t deserve much. They have trained you to feel you, …