The Stages of Change

Some of you may be familiar with Prochask’s Stages of Change model. If we are to really grasp the concepts of Reality Distortion and Reality Clarity Systems, we must be familiar with how people get ready …

Types of Reality Distortion Systems

Codependency, Part 3

Games with Addicts

Codependents and addicts are like magnets for each other. The codependent is attracted to the addict because they want to, “help,” fix and rescue, and who better to do …

Types of Reality Distortion Systems

Codependency, Part 2

The game of, “Irresponsibility,” is one that lures codependents into unfulfilling relationships.

Irresponsibility: Codependents are SUPER responsible. They enable those who are irresponsible to keep being irresponsible. How do they do that? …

Types of Reality Distortion Systems

Codependency, Part 1

Who would ever think that trying to, “help,” “fix,” or, “rescue,” someone would be based on a denial system that colors the way the codependent sees the world?  In truth, codependents are …

Types of Reality Distortion Systems

Food Addiction – Overeaters, Part 2

Food addicts have no concept of quantity.  They tend to be addicted to sugar and refined carbohydrates. These are addictive substances that influence mood, and, like other drugs, withdrawals, …

Types of Reality Distortion Systems

Food Addiction – Overeaters, Part 1

Who would ever think of food as a Reality Distortion System? Food? For many people, food is a salve for pent up emotions, it’s a way of showing love …

Types of Reality Distortion Systems

Codependency, Part 2

Those in the RDS of Codependency think they’re extremely nice, helpful and giving, and they don’t understand why others aren’t just as nice to them.  The truth is, codependents foster dysfunction in …

Types of Reality Distortion Systems

Codependency, Part 2

Codependents have a mission:  to save, rescue and fix, other people.  They wear themselves out by explaining, cajoling, pleading, manipulating, and being martyrs.  They set themselves to be the victims of the …

Types of Reality Distortion Systems

Codependency, Part 1

Why is Codependency a Reality Distortion System?  Because  it is based on a denial and control schema that serve to  cement perception distortion into one’s entire vision of what is true, and …

Types of Reality Distortion Systems

Porn, Part 3

Unlike any other Reality Distortion System, porn addiction can lead the addict’s partner to feeling inadequate, unattractive, and shameful because they can’t connect with the one they love in the most intimate …