There are many models about the cycle of intimacy. Let’s explore how the cycle of Intimacy works as a formula. 1. While we may have many acquaintances, we often feel alone. In our interpersonal relations, we begin to look for …
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How Important is Intimacy to YOU?

How Important is Intimacy to YOU?
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The Stages of Change

The Stages of Change
Some of you may be familiar with Prochask’s Stages of Change model. If we are to really grasp the concepts of Reality Distortion and Reality Clarity Systems, we must be familiar with how people get ready …
Codependency: A Reality Distortion System, Part 3

Types of Reality Distortion Systems
Codependency, Part 3
Games with Addicts
Codependents and addicts are like magnets for each other. The codependent is attracted to the addict because they want to, “help,” fix and rescue, and who better to do …
Codependency: A Reality Distortion System, Part 2

Types of Reality Distortion Systems
Codependency, Part 2
The game of, “Irresponsibility,” is one that lures codependents into unfulfilling relationships.
Irresponsibility: Codependents are SUPER responsible. They enable those who are irresponsible to keep being irresponsible. How do they do that? …
Codependency: A Reality Distortion System, Part 1

Types of Reality Distortion Systems
Codependency, Part 1
Who would ever think that trying to, “help,” “fix,” or, “rescue,” someone would be based on a denial system that colors the way the codependent sees the world? In truth, codependents are …
Food Addiction: A Reality Distortion System, Part 2

Types of Reality Distortion Systems
Food Addiction – Overeaters, Part 2
Food addicts have no concept of quantity. They tend to be addicted to sugar and refined carbohydrates. These are addictive substances that influence mood, and, like other drugs, withdrawals, …
Food Addiction: A Reality Distortion System, Part 1

Types of Reality Distortion Systems
Food Addiction – Overeaters, Part 1
Who would ever think of food as a Reality Distortion System? Food? For many people, food is a salve for pent up emotions, it’s a way of showing love …
Codependency: A Reality Distortion System, Part 3

Types of Reality Distortion Systems
Codependency, Part 2
Those in the RDS of Codependency think they’re extremely nice, helpful and giving, and they don’t understand why others aren’t just as nice to them. The truth is, codependents foster dysfunction in …
Codependency: A Reality Distortion System, Part 2

Types of Reality Distortion Systems
Codependency, Part 2
Codependents have a mission: to save, rescue and fix, other people. They wear themselves out by explaining, cajoling, pleading, manipulating, and being martyrs. They set themselves to be the victims of the …