Acceptance
Acceptance, in the RDS/RCS (Reality Distortion Systems / Reality Clarity Systems) context, is the internal knowledge and belief that those in our RDS, won’t change because we want them to do so, or because we have new information or …
Author: Ann Schiebert
Reality Clarity System – Summary 3
Bargaining
Now, you start bargaining with yourself. You have walked away from all the guilt that comes from the RDS but now you say to yourself, "Is this really what I want?" "Can I ignore my family?" "Is it my …
Reality Clarity Systems – Summary 2
So there is mom, at the front door, inviting you in for the holiday meal. And the GUILT stage begins:
"I wouldn’t want to hurt mom’s feelings." "It would be so bad to disrespect mom by declining her invitation to …
Reality Clarity Systems – Summary 1
A Reality Clarity System is open. It is comprised of people who are in the process of leaving; those who have left their family or corporations or churches etc, RDS. They have opened to new information and have rejected the …
Reality Clarity Systems – Actualization
With practice, Susan will actually become a different person with a reality that is one SHE has worked to actualize: She is not going to pass her family of origin’s RDS on to another generation. What Susan has done is …
Reality Clarity Systems
Going from a Reality Distortion System to a Reality Clarity System is a process. None of this is linear. Often, those on the path find they take one step forward and two steps back. Look at how far Susan has …
Reality Distortion Systems – Part 5
Guilting
One day, Susan’s mom will call her on the phone. "Oh honey, we all miss you so much! Won’t you come over for dinner? Your dad would love to see you. He doesn’t understand why you’ve not been around."…
Reality Distortion Systems – Part 4
Susan will get depressed! Susan’s family will get depressed! Everyone but dad will be depressed because dad has been enabled to keep drinking and remain ignorant that his disease is at the root of family upheaval, RDS, and chronic disappointment. …
Reality Distortion Systems – Part 3
Life in a Reality Distortion System:
dad’s relatives – many addicts
alcoholic dad mom’s relatives – marry addicts
codependent mom
3 children
What happens? The family falls apart and Susan gets blamed for the family’s issues. Initially, Susan felt …
Reality Distortion Systems – Part 2
Example of life in a Reality Distortion System:
dad’s relatives – many addicts
alcoholic dad mom’s relatives – marry addicts
codependent mom
3 children
It is extremely difficult and uncomfortable to get one’s self out of a Psychological Reality …