Reality Clarity Systems



Going from a Reality Distortion System to a Reality Clarity System is a process. None of this is linear. Often, those on the path find they take one step forward and two steps back. Look at how far Susan has come! Through education she discovered her family Reality Distortion System was based on denial about her father’s alcoholism. She has passed through the anger, depression/guilt, and bargaining stages. Though her family keeps in touch, Susan has declined family invitations enough times, that they are approaching the stage of acceptance.

Susan is accepting that she has no control over her family’s decision to remain in their RDS. She is accepting that her mother and siblings have rallied around dad’s disease of alcoholism to keep dad insulated from being confronted with his drinking. She is accepting that she has another reality that isn’t the one held by her family. Susan is working to discover and actualize her clearer, more accurate reality. She is practicing ways to overcome the family denial system.

Susan’s family is accepting that Susan is not going to bend on her new boundaries. Try as they might, through guilting, anger, and bargaining, Susan has resisted returning to the family RDS. This does not mean that Susan’s family will totally back away from trying to have Susan, "return to the family," because family systems are tenacious and family systems always want the, "missing person," to come back into the fold. But, over time, if Susan remains strong, the attempts to manipulate Susan to return, will lessen.

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